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...For the first time I'm starting to see myself in a more real way and it hurts and is sobering, but it's also the first time I've really felt like 1) I know what's going on, and 2) what I can do about it. Those two conundrums eluded me for many years. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with us, and for being a real person when training us.

My life and marriage has changed incredibly for good. Recently my husband teared up in bed because he was so overwhelmed and happy with how our relationship is moving forward. ... Bless him. It has taken me 38 years to choose him, and to own my sexuality. This happened surprisingly quickly once true principles were introduced to me. Those life-changing events came through you and the course I signed up for. Life is good. I don't know how to thank you.

This podcast [Room for Two] has been absolutely transformational for me. I started 3 weeks ago listening and already I have been able to shift my mindset and behavior to make some significant progress in my relationship with my wife. I have been able to experience more joy and connection than ever. Thank you!!"  -- Posted on FB, used with permission 

 "I’ve listened to each episode more than one time through and I LOVE them! To say they are about sex and intimacy is misleading. They are more about how to become a whole person. A whole person in relation to yourself and in a relationship. Such valuable insights and help for me as I work on these things in myself.-- A.F.

I just wanted to write and thank you for developing these programs. My wife and I finished your Relationship Course and are currently listening to your Sexuality Course. We are celebrating 14 years of marriage in March.  I can honestly say I have never felt closer to my wife. We had massive breakthroughs while taking your Relationship Course. I was able to identify my losing strategies and my wife has finally given herself fully to me, no more walls. These last few weeks have been some of the best of our marriage. We are finally communicating honestly and openly. Thank you again! You have two new fans!

Please let Jennifer know that ... we were able to move past the gridlock we were experiencing when we listened to an episode on Room for Two!  We related so much with one of the couples and it was like, "duh!"  there it is...that makes so much sense, why couldn't we see that!  

Please let her know that we think Room for Two is an absolutely brilliant idea to help couples learn from other couples.  It really does accelerate the process of self and couple development!  Jennifer is so effective and brilliant in how she unravels the complex couple challenges compassionately and with tender humor (couldn't happen to a better guy, lol)!  I am forever grateful for her and her work!  It has literally saved our marriage!  We are hard core fans!

This podcast [Room for Two] is a gold mine! The insight, the wisdom, the clarity, the vulnerability is life changing. In our marriage, we have been able to hit codependency right on the head thanks for Dave and Carly. Thank your Dave and Carly for your vulnerability. You have changed our lives. Jennifer has explained the role of codependency in our lives so profoundly. Episode 20 was the most impactful episode for us yet, we are starting to see wild changes in our lives that are finally aligning with what our vision is. Such a wonderful resource Jennifer, we are so grateful for this. Thank you so much!

Jennifer, I have spent about an hour a day with you for a few months now.  I've geeked out on your podcasts and am currently taking 2 of your classes.  I can't get enough of your wisdom and world view.  You have elevated my way of life, my own grounding and believe in myself, and made me better able to love.  Once you realize you have control over yourself only, you realize you don't have to be reactive at all.  SO FREEING AND PROFOUND.  So even though I don't actually know you, I feel like I do.  you are the highlight of my commute, my lunch break, my up-all-night-to-wrap-presents time.  You have been there for me and are doing amazing things for my life.  I truly thank you.

What an an amazing talent you have of framing sex, sexuality, and sexual relationships in a positive way that empowers me and gives me hope and courage to teach my children about sex in a way that will bless and enrich their lives. Based on the things I have learned from this course I have already changed the dynamics of my conversations with my children.

"...Over the past 9 months, we have listened to all of your podcasts and taken both of your couples' courses. They have done more for us than I ever thought was possible. And not just the relationship, but for us as individuals as well.  (The concepts taught of self-validating and self-confronting have been so empowering, it’s hard to describe.) 

And still, after all I’ve heard and learned, the Art of Loving men’s course has been the best of all. It’s been one of the most uplifting, hope filled, face-smacking experience I’ve ever had. Learning that my desires, wants, passions and identity are not things that need to be hidden or shamed, has given me the courage to open up---To be honest with [my wife] in a way I didn't think was possible. The more open and honest about who I am, the less power and appeal the destructive behavior has had. ... The burdens so long carried have become lighter. I still have far to go but finally seeing a path makes me smile and cry at the same time. It’s the toughest, most joyful thing I’ve ever done. Being completely open can be a butt-kicker. But I can feel the difference and [my wife] can see the difference.

It was three years ago today that I purchased your relationship course ... I was hooked, so moved onto the AOD course, then an AOD retreat, then the intimacy course!  So much appreciation for you and your work, it has been life (and marriage) saving!

Thank you for making our life SO much better!!!  You are a hero of mine! I have loved all of your courses - you have been such a blessing in my life!! Thank you!! 

I recently listened to the [podcast] episode Sexuality and Happiness with Andy Proctor. When you were talking about the do's and don'ts of healthy sexuality, you mentioned coming to a place of gratitude for our embodiment and sexuality.  It totally made me cry as I realized that is exactly what I have come to feel. As one who was terrified of my sexuality and thought it was an evil part of me, your words and teachings have helped me change and reframe these unhealthy thoughts into more productive ones. Now, I can honestly say I am so grateful for my sexuality and for the goodness it brings to my life and my marriage. Without your podcasts and courses, I would still be living in sexual shame and my marriage would not be thriving. Thank you!!

Honestly this podcast [Room for Two] is amazing ... [I]t leaves you without an excuse to confront all immaturity.

Each episode is like opening a window inch by inch on a sunny, cold winter day. Like the cold breeze rushing in, Jennifer’s feedback to the couples’ makes you uncomfortable, but in the end you’re gaining more light, and more insight to have a warm marriage where you’ll want to stay.

I just wanted to say thank you for all that you do to teach people about having better relationships and being their best selves. I have never listened to an expert before that I hung on every word, and have never once thought "that is close but a little off from what I think is true." I feel like I am a better person and better disciple as I listen to your podcasts. Thank you!!!!!

Dr. Finlayson-Fife is pretty much my new hero. I just found her a month ago and bought 3 of her courses and have been going through them and my mind has absolutely been blown and forever changed. I feel like I've had a complete paradigm shift, more than I've ever had in my entire life!!!!

This year has been infinitely better because of the growth and learning I have been blessed to discover through your teaching!  From the bottom of my heart, thank you for what you're doing!!!

Thank you for developing this class [the Art of Desire] and making it available.  I've been talking about it to my friends and encouraging them to check out your courses and workshops.  I am really learning so much and am so grateful.

I purchased the Relationship Course this December and have been thrilled with the material presented.  The classroom format is fantastic. ... Jennifer invites an honesty that has helped me shift in an area that I have felt overwhelmingly stuck. There is goodness in this course that has influenced me to see, be, and do better.  Thank you.

The interview with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about wholehearted stage 3 sex was quite literally life changing. We were both trying to get somewhere together, not knowing how, nor what or where that somewhere was. We were both getting frustrated. Then we listened to that interview and discussed the stage in which we commonly engaged in during sex, and it all clicked. We both finally got each other, and knew exactly what we wanted to create together. We finally had the same destination. My walls finally fell, and we've been in heaven since. We've never been closer. So, thank you for giving us the tools we've need to improve our relationship the way we have been.

We just finished your two couples courses last week. They have been remarkably helpful to us. When my wife purchased them, I was skeptical. I just told her yesterday that this was the best money we've ever spent. Thank you so much for your insight and wisdom. Your work has made a huge difference in our marriage, and we are grateful.

Jennifer you are a breath of fresh air. Your understanding of people and their challenges in their relationships is so refreshing, wise, and needed---particularly in my life. I have been looking for your kind of guidance for a very long time and thankfully a friend, who I'm sure was inspired, put me on to your website. Im so grateful for your study and lifelong pursuit to get where you are today.  I am hopeful that your new podcast [Room for Two] and your Art of Desire Course will help me get into a better frame of mind to take charge of my life and ultimately create a better marriage, relationship and friendship with my husband. Thank you Jennifer for being you and for how you see the world.  I am better for listening to your wisdom.

A year ago this week, my husband and I bought the Strengthening Your Marriage course. We went through the entirety of its contents (lectures and assignments) over the course of a few months. It has truly been life changing; assuming that one of Jennifer's assistants is reading this and not Jennifer herself, please tell her from us that her work is absolutely extraordinary. I did my undergraduate in Family Studies at BYU and started a Master's degree in Marriage, Family and Human Development, and even with my educational background, I found her presentation to be ground breaking and life altering, both within the context of my marriage as well as my life views and perspectives. I cannot thank her enough for her years of study, work, and utilization of her unique skillset and brilliance in this field to change my life (and the lives of so many) for good.

I just wanted to say thanks so much for all you do.  My wife and I have gotten so much value out of your podcasts, your posts, your Facebook group and the classes we've purchased.  Our sexual relationship has improved, our ability to be open and experience deeper levels of real intimacy with each other has improved, our marriage as a whole has improved.  You have been a big part of that. I am so glad my wife discovered you and started having me listen.  So glad I decided to allow myself to work through the discomfort for the sake of real growth.  Thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of our hearts.  You make a difference.  

I want to say thank you so much for the work you are doing.  It has blessed my life in ways that I feel incapable of expressing.  The changes I have had to make have not been easy, but they feel worthwhile and purposeful.  

All of my relationships are healthier in great part from the things I have learned from your classes and podcasts.  My "frame" for looking at the world, and parenting, and marriage and God have changed drastically.  It has caused me to confront my limitations and the limitations of others in a way that has been incredibly freeing.  Thank you for all that you do.

I bought three of your courses a couple months ago and they have changed my life and without question saved my marriage.

...For the first time I'm starting to see myself in a more real way and it hurts and is sobering, but it's also the first time I've really felt like 1) I know what's going on, and 2) what I can do about it. Those two conundrums eluded me for many years. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with us, and for being a real person when training us.